The Two Sides of Narcissism: A Childhood Perspective

Narcissism: Understanding its Roots and Impact Understanding the origins of narcissism is crucial to addressing its effects. Recent research suggests that narcissistic personality traits often develop in childhood due to either over-praising or neglect. A TikTok video by 'beyondthebruise' illustrates this duality. The video explains that children who are excessively praised may grow up believing they are superior and flawless, while those who are neglected may develop a false sense of self to protect themselves from feeling inadequate. The video's creator states, "Some narcissists were put on a pedestal; they were over-praised, told they were special, perfect, superior." Conversely, neglected children may develop a false persona to survive, as the speaker notes, "Others grew up ignored, neglected, rejected, or constantly criticized and blamed for everything." Regardless of the origin, both paths lead to a 'false self' that protects underlying shame and fear. The video concludes by highlighting the importance of setting boundaries to break free from the cycle of narcissistic behavior. This understanding fosters compassion while maintaining personal safety.