Why Narcissists Don't Change: A Look into the Psychology of Self-Deception

Understanding the Unchangeable: Why Narcissists Resist Change Millions grapple with relationships involving narcissistic individuals. A recent video by TikTok user M 🌹 (@beyondthebruise) sheds light on this dynamic. The video's central argument is simple yet profound: narcissists resist change because it would require them to confront uncomfortable truths about themselves. The author, a DV advocate, explains, "Change requires truth, but narcissists live in a world of lies." This statement encapsulates the core issue. Their self-image as flawless and victimized prevents self-reflection. The video illustrates this with the example that a true narcissist would never voluntarily seek therapy to address manipulative behaviors. The author further points out that accountability is not just uncomfortable for them but almost unbearable, threatening their carefully constructed narrative of innocence and perfection. This resistance to self-awareness is not about inability, but about the preservation of a false self. While the video lacks scientific evidence, it taps into a common experience, resonating with those who have dealt with narcissistic individuals. The video's popularity (16,700 views, 1078 likes, and 232 saves) shows the widespread interest in this topic. Further research into the psychological mechanisms behind narcissistic resistance to change is necessary, but this video offers a relatable starting point for discussion.