Five Relationship Mistakes to Avoid for a Happier Marriage, According to an Oxford-Educated Coach

Relationship Coach Shares 5 Mistakes to Avoid for a Stronger Marriage Katarina Polonská, a relationship coach with a background from the University of Oxford, recently shared crucial insights into building healthy and happy marriages. Drawing from her personal experiences, Polonská outlined five common pitfalls she encountered in past relationships, which she now actively avoids in her marriage. According to Polonská, the first mistake is 'holding back your honest truth.' She stresses that withholding feelings or concerns erodes intimacy and prevents partners from addressing issues effectively. 'Tell them the truth,' she urged, emphasizing the importance of open communication. Secondly, Polonská challenged the assumption that love must always be a 'constant high' filled with intense passion and romance. She clarified that true, secure relationships are 'steady' and 'peaceful,' not a 'rollercoaster of up and down.' Chasing constant highs, she noted, indicates unhealthy core patterns. Her third piece of advice is to 'don't talk about your relationship to anyone other than a qualified professional.' Polonská warned against seeking advice from friends or family, as their opinions are often biased and based on projections rather than objective professional guidance. 'Keep your relationship private,' she advised. The fourth mistake highlighted is assuming relationships 'have to be hard work.' While acknowledging that relationships require effort and personal growth, she asserted that they are not meant to be a 'breeding ground for struggling, having anxiety, and insomnia.' Instead, a relationship should be a 'safe space' where one feels peaceful. Finally, Polonská addressed the role of ego. She cautioned against wanting to 'be right,' being 'stubborn,' or 'playing games' to gain control in the dynamic. 'That's your ego running the show,' she stated, adding that 'your ego has no place in a healthy, happy romantic relationship.' She concluded by urging viewers to put their ego aside, be kind, generous, and forgiving for a healthy and happy love life.

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