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"I am no one's person": Woman explains what coupled people just don't get about…
In a world that’s made for couples, show some love to the single people in your life.
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Chronic Singleness: The Unseen Burdens and the Search for Connection
A recent social media post by Emma, known online as "that girl from Maine," has shed light on the often-misunderstood experience of chronic singleness. In a candid video, Emma articulates the profound difference between being loved by friends and family and not having "a person" – a romantic partner who serves as a primary confidant and support system. Her reflection has resonated with many, sparking a conversation about the emotional and practical burdens carried by single individuals. "I am no one's person. I do not have a person," Emma states directly in her video, clarifying that this is not a cry for pity but an objective truth. She explains that while she is "extremely loved" by her friends, family, and even "the Lord of this universe," the absence of a romantic partner means she is not someone's "first choice" or "first call" for daily interactions and shared life experiences. Emma acknowledges the difficulty of this reality, admitting, "Does that suck sometimes? Absolutely." She describes her deliberate efforts to "romanticize my life" by pursuing solo adventures like traveling, dining out, hiking, and camping. Her motivation stems from a desire to live fully and avoid feeling that she has "wasted" her time before potentially meeting a partner. "I don't want to meet them and realize that I had all this time that I just wasted," she explains. The video serves as a poignant reminder to those in coupled relationships to appreciate their partners and extend support to their single friends. Emma urges, "Please don't take it for granted AND please show the single people in your life some love. Chances are they're amazing, resourceful, resilient, self-sufficient people, but they're also carrying all of the weight all of the time. There are no days off." Her message highlights the unseen efforts and emotional labor undertaken by single individuals, advocating for small gestures of kindness and inclusion.
