
Voici 3 situations où il est inutile de punir un enfant selon un expert en pare…
Punir ou ne pas punir ? Pour Jon Fogel, expert en parentalité bienveillante, certaines situations doivent absolument échapper à la sanction au risque…
In a recent online video, parenting expert Jon Fogel, author of 'Punishment-Free Parenting,' outlined three specific instances where he advises parents to refrain from punishing their children. Fogel argues that traditional disciplinary methods in these situations can be counterproductive to a child's development and long-term well-being. According to Fogel, parents should never punish a child who comes to them seeking help after making a mistake, even if it involves breaking a rule. He states, 'When you punish your kid in that moment, you are teaching them that they should not come to you for help.' He warns that this approach can lead to children making dangerous decisions later in life without parental guidance. Secondly, Fogel suggests avoiding punishment for tasks parents want their children to be internally motivated to do, such as household chores like doing dishes or cleaning clothes. He explains that punishment makes these tasks about the parent's enforcement rather than the child's intrinsic desire to contribute, leading to a lack of self-motivation when parental oversight is absent. Finally, Fogel advises against punishing children for conflicts or negative actions directed at their siblings. He posits that rather than fostering responsibility, such punishments often lead children to blame their sibling for the consequence, thereby hindering the development of a positive sibling relationship. 'Most parents want their kids to grow up to be friends, to have a good relationship,' Fogel noted, emphasizing that punishment in these scenarios makes that goal harder to achieve. Fogel, who has authored a book on 'Punishment-Free Parenting,' concludes by reiterating his overall philosophy that punishment is generally unhelpful for children's development.
Punir ou ne pas punir ? Pour Jon Fogel, expert en parentalité bienveillante, certaines situations doivent absolument échapper à la sanction au risque…